Taller women dating a shorter man
And as I got older, more and more men I dated would comment on it: "I love how I can pick you up," "You're so cute and little," and even, "I'm only dating Chaya-sized girls from now on." I got rid of him shortly after.One even said explicitly, "I feel so manly with you." It's sort of been a firsthand exercise in how a lot of guys associate traits they see as childlike with femininity — they equate my height with an overall smallness, and that then makes them feel "big," playing into a traditionally desirable gender binary and power structure between men and women.I've been told more than a few times that "there's no way I can tell you're trans," and that helps men feel comfortable dating me.I've even been in a couple of dating situations where people have thought I was kidding when I came out to them as trans.
Kevin: I'm not one to complain about being short, because once you realize you can shop in the children's section and climb on top of things to get to out-of-reach objects, you're pretty much on a level playing field with the rest of the world. I think a lot of guys fetishize the height gap and say things like, "I'm so into you because you're so short," or "It's really hot knowing that I could lift you up in bed," etc.
As far as dating a woman taller than me, I'm definitely fine with it, but I'm also probably guilty of preemptively thinking I'm "too short" for a woman taller than me and not giving it a proper chance.
When it comes down to it, it's not really even about the height.
But I don't understand why people think it's OK to shamelessly put down other women who are taller or bigger than I am.
Every "amazon" and "giant" these men compare me to — they are PEOPLE. So when men reassure me that I'm not "too tall," it isn't flattering — it's infuriating.